I don’t know when Pierre decided it was ok to start telling everyone he was a partner in the cafe. In the beginning he was concerned about conflict of interest, because he worked for corporate and was partnering with Robbie and me to open a business inside one of the corporate owned rinks. At some point, small children started telling me their coach owned our snack bar. So it became public knowledge. When people know you are part of a business, you have to conduct yourself appropriately.
Normally, I would think raising your children would not affect business. However in this kind of environment, people recognize or know you and your children. If people see something they don’t like, they may decide never to do business with you. So what you do at the rink reflects directly on your cash flow.
As an animal person, I know the importance of observation. We watch our animals all the time, to see how they feel and think. So I was surprised that Pierre didn’t seem to do that with his 3 adopted children. It’s important to assess where they are and guide them. Sadly, these kids came from a bad home and had to be seized and put up for adoption. They were truly lucky to be adopted by someone who could keep them together.
Pierre would show up at the rink with the kids (and sometimes with someone to watch them) and head off to coach his students – you know, the ones he said he was going to stop coaching so he could dedicate time to grow the cafe. If he brought someone to watch the kids, they would encourage the kids to do their homework and stuff like that, especially since they needed a lot of tutoring to catch up to their grade level. When Pierre didn’t bring a babysitter, the kids would run wild in the lobby. That wasn’t necessarily unusual, as many parents ignored their children at the rink and havoc would ensue. The problem was, Pierre’s kids had no idea how to act in public. They certainly hadn’t learned anything from their biological parents. Pierre’s kids would go to tables where the people had food, touch their food, and ask if it was for them. I’m sure that’s how they survived before they were taken from their biological parents, but it was certainly inappropriate at the rink. One day, Pierre’s daughter picked up someone’s baby and dropped it. These are all things Pierre should have been present for; he should have brought the kids to the rink when he wasn’t working so he could observe how they acted and teach them appropriate behavior, rather than be mad when he heard what happened and scold them.
My mistake here was not walking away the day Pierre told me he was adopting children. I should have realized his lack of discloser in the beginning was a sign there were more secrets, and secrets aren’t good for business.